With this Motivational Monday’s post, confidence and how to gain it, I have shared some things that I have done to change my attitude and be wayyyy less self-conscious. When I look back now, I see that confidence is something that I lacked in certain areas in my twenties. I felt self-conscious about a lot of things but then I turned 30 and it’s sort of like something clicked and I suddenly realised that, the only person who is stopping me from doing what I wanted was Me.
I realised that I need to stop thinking about what other people might think and just go for it! To give an example, I actually wanted to start this blog a few years ago, but I let self-consciousness get the better of me and just thought ‘oh no I can’t, sure what would people think’ and ‘there are so many other blogs out there that are a million times better’. Then, like I said, I hit 30 and realised that WHO CARES, stop been a gobshite and do what make you happy:) So whatever it is that you want to do, if it’s not hurting anybody and it makes you happy, then just do it.
1. Comparing Yourself
We shouldn’t be comparing ourselves but this is easier said than done so if you are going compare yourself to other people then do it the right way, use it as inspiration.
Compare yourself to the mother who also works full time and still manages to keep an organised house. To the full time mothers who, in the middle of all the madness of raising kids, decided to go back to college. To the guy that at 30 thinks crap, this is not the job that I want to do for the rest of my life and went back to college. To the people that decided to throw themselves head first emotionally and financially into starting their own business and work from the crack of dawn until the wee hours of the night, every day to make it a success. To the Richard Branson’s of the world. These are the types of people to compare yourself to. This is not that you make this comparison to feel bad about yourself; it’s that you do it to get inspired by their motivation and ambition and willingness to work hard.
2. Social Media
This also ties in with comparing yourself, especially in our now selfie filled world! I want to say take it with a pinch of salt, but really it’s a few tablespoons you’ll need when it comes to social media. We need to understand that social media is, most of the time, a portrayal of only the best bits of people lives so when you see all these perfect shots of all of those people you follow, then remember that these shots are staged just to get the perfect picture, which is totally fine, and they are obviously only going to show you the glamourous aspects of their lives.
3. Self-Doubt Is Killer
I am sure that self-doubt has killed many a dream. We need to think and believe that anything is possible. As cringe worthy as it sounds, you truly need to believe in yourself, believe in whatever it is that you want to do even when others cast doubt. I don’t think that the Richard Branson’s of the world got to where they are by not believing in themselves and their ideas.
4. Look Good, Feel Good
The easiest way to gain some confidence! When you’re ‘well groomed’ it boosts your confidence.
5. Reading/Listen to Audible Books
These types of books are great food for thought and really help you believe in yourself! I have a little stack that I am trying to work my way through and will be doing reviews over the next little while on my ‘whats in my nightstand’ section of the blog:)
Thank you so much for reading,
*I am not a mental health professional and encourage those who feel they need to speak to someone, to contact a professional or speak to a friend or family member.
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